The Easiest Way to Make Your BDSM Session/relationship Powerful: Ritual

How to transition from the everyday into a deep power dynamic

I’m SpoiltPrincessG also known as Princess Grace. I’m a professional Dominatrix and content creator.

One of the most common challenges people face in their early exploration of BDSM is transitioning from their everyday roles into Dominant and submissive dynamics.

So how do you step out of your everyday self ?

How do you fully embody your Dominant or submissive self?

The answer is: ritual.

What Is Ritual?

For the sake of this conversation, I define ritual as a structured, intentional action or series of actions that carries meaning. It doesn’t have to be religious or spiritual (though it absolutely can be). I find this particularly fun considering I was raised strict Catholic, rituals and discipline are second nature to me. A ritual is not just routine. It’s a conscious, symbolic transition. It says, “We are stepping into something different now.”

My Personal Ritual

Before every session, I have a ritual.

It begins the moment I undress and step into the shower. As I wash my body, add my perfume I visualize the session ahead. I recall my sub’s consent checklist, running through their triggers and limits from memory.

As I get dressed, I mentally step deeper and excited, I imagine their body before me in the humble position. I hear the tone of my voice giving command guiding them further on their submissive journey. By the time I enter the room, I’m already in it and know what I want to achieve. This is more than just "getting ready. "This is ritual.

Why Ritual Works (Especially for Beginners)

Ritual is one of the most powerful, accessible tools in BDSM especially when you're just starting to play with power. If you want to shift from who you are as in everyday life into who you are in a BDSM session/relationship: create a ritual.

If you want to mark the beginning and end of a scene: create a ritual. Ritual provides structure, deepens intimacy, and reinforces the dynamic you’re building and it’s incredibly flexible. It can be integrated before, during, or after an interaction online or real time. I aim for long term ownership because I have a certain way to train my submissives, certain rituals I like to adhere to.

Elements You Can Use in Your Rituals:

Collars, jewelry, or other symbolic adornments, dog bowl,

Lighting ( dim lights or almost darkness)

Spoken or written mantras,

Financial tribute or gestures of respect,

Music or ambient sound,

Tasks or physical preparations.

Pre-Session Ritual Ideas

Rituals don’t need to be elaborate. Even a few small, intentional actions can have a powerful effect.

Here are some examples:

1. The importance of mantras

Have your submissive speak a specific phrase when they wake up or after sending tribute or serving online or in person. It starts the mental shift immediately.

2. Session space preparation

Ask your submissive to lay out the tools for the session. Even if you don’t use them all, the act of preparing gives them time to sink into anticipation and submission. Eg. Show worshipping submissive takes your shoes put their dust bag and lines them up ready to be placed on you feet, for worship.

3. Memory and forecast

Have your submissive untangle a wig if the sub is a sissy or having them straighten out laces on their leather mask the tactile experience alone can evoke deep emotional memory and prepare them for what’s next. It also reinforces that a submissive is here to serve not just to be passive.

4. Order your submissive to undress in a certain manner, carefully folding their clothes and placing them in a dedicated spot.

5. Then, they can kneel at your feet or in a specific body position of your choosing.

Kneel, hands turned up on thighs

Kneel, hands behind the neck

On all fours, head down to the floor after presenting you with a tribute.

6. Collaring:

Putting a collar on my sub is my favorite ritual to mark the beginning of a scene. If it’s not a collar, it can be another symbolic adornment you agree upon.

Instruct the submissive to kiss the collar, and thank you for the opportunity to submit.

Remind them what it symbolizes, and reinforce its meaning with a repeatable phrase or mantra.

Some new subs like to push back or try to top from the bottom with criticisms or questioning why rituals/mantras are necessary, this is them not trusting the process and unwilling to let go, unwilling to fully submit. It ruins the flow, it's important both dom and sub are committed to their roles to get the most fulfilment out of it.

After the collar is in place, instruct the submissive to kiss your shoes or boots, each right first, then left or they can kiss the whip or cane you might use or your gloved hands.

7. Inspecting your submissive:

Circle them. Choose how many times you will do this and repeat the pattern at the beginning of each session. Take in how they look and smell. Did they meet your standards? Did they follow the pre-session ritual? Count the tribute they gave you, telling them it's significance, the tribute is a sign they are willing to sacrifice and provide, do what it takes to serve you.

8. Rituals at the End of the Session

Pro tip: I recommend that you, as the Dominant, lead these rituals. Your submissive may be deep in subspace, after going into a beautiful place of pain and pleasure to serve you.

Create a phrase to mark the transition back to reality.

As the Dominant, I like to express my gratitude for their submission and say why I am proud of them and have a little discussion about how they will continue to submit and challenges or goals I have in mind for them.

Create rituals that work for you.

Imagine how they can be woven into a BDSM relationship.

If a ritual doesn’t work at first, don’t worry. You can try it again in the future or toss it out and create something new. Experiment. Find what works. Adapt and refine.

As your connection to your inner Dominant or submissive deepens, and your BDSM dynamic becomes more intuitive, rituals may change. It may become less structured, more fluid, more natural or it may become an even more powerful.

Ritual is your shortcut to emotional depth, embodiment, and power exchange.

It invites both of you, Dominant and submissive to arrive not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, energetically.